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In the Media
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Sara-Louise Ackrill and Bontle Senne are the co-authors of a new book about love and romance within the neurodivergent community. Here, they reveal how relationship norms don’t always align with ND needs and why a more authentic, self-defined approach to intimacy is needed
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Rethinking Romance - How to celebrate Valentine’s Day with a neurodivergent partner
By Anthony Harvison
With candlelit dinners, surprise gifts, and grand gestures, Valentine’s Day is often portrayed as the ultimate celebration of love. But for many neurodivergent people, these traditional expressions of affection can feel overwhelming, stressful, or even alienating.
From sensory sensitivities to different communication styles, the pressure to conform to neurotypical relationship norms can make February 14th more challenging than romantic.
Rethinking Romance - How to celebrate Valentine’s day with neurodivergent partner
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Love & Lust When You’re Neurodivergent: An Interview with Bontle Senne & Sara-Louise Ackrill
Navigating love, sex, and relationships can be a challenge for anyone, but for neurodivergent women, it can be even more complex. To mark the release of new ND relationship guide The ND Lovers Club, we spoke to co-authors Bontle Senne and Sara-Louise Ackrill – who are themselves neurodivergent – to find out more about why they are on a mission to rewrite the rulebook on romance.
Press Releases
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The groundbreaking new guide to rejection sensitivity, neurodivergence, and reclaiming your emotional life.
AuDHD author, therapist, and entrepreneur Sara-Louise Ackrill is set to release her new book When Will I Get the Memo? on 19 May 2026; a deeply honest and empowering exploration of RSD, social rejection and the hidden emotional struggles experienced daily by many neurodivergent people.
Drawing on lived experience as an AuDHD practitioner, Sara-Louise offers readers an unfiltered and compassionate look at the emotional intensity that can accompany ADHD and autism, particularly the pain of perceived rejection, criticism, misunderstanding, and chronic self-doubt.
About the Book
Social rejection is often deeply debilitating, yet widely misunderstood. When Will I Get the Memo? breaks down social rejection into its many component parts, acting as a guide for anyone who finds it difficult to understand or articulate their reactions to it.
The book offers readers validation, reframes, and practical tools to support emotional understanding and self-awareness. It encourages readers to see themselves as part of the wider human experience, particularly in a world where the social and economic costs of “me versus them” thinking are so often overlooked.
Written with warmth, honesty, and relatability, When Will I Get the Memo? speaks directly to readers who have spent years feeling “too sensitive,” emotionally exhausted, or disconnected from others.
“Many neurodivergent people grow up feeling like everyone else was handed instructions for life that they somehow never received. This book is about giving language to those experiences and helping people understand themselves with more compassion and less shame.”- Sara-Louise Ackrill, Author
Endorsements
“In two words, what this book has given me is relief and knowledge.”
- Sonia Verghese, Talent Lead
“A book that feels like it matters.”
- Michael Vermeersch, Inclusion Strategist
“This is a strong discussion of social rejection.”
- Chuck Hall, Executive Coach
Book Details
Title: When Will I Get the Memo?
Author: Sara-Louise Ackrill
Release Date: 19 May 2026
Formats: Paperback, Kindle
Available from 19th May at: www.builttodiverge.com/memo
About the Author
Sara-Louise Ackrill is an AuDHD therapist, coach, and entrepreneur based in London. Working with professionals and organisations, she brings together her therapeutic expertise and lived experience to explore the intersection of neurodiversity, mental health, and everyday life.
Media & Review Enquiries
Sara-Louise is ready to bring this conversation to your audience. Advance review copies, interviews, radio appearances, and feature collaborations are all warmly welcomed.
Media Contact
Polly Spiers – PR Assistant polly.spiers@wireddifferently.co.uk
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By Bontle Senne and Sara-Louise Ackrill
Forget “Normal.” It’s Time to Rewrite the Rules on Love, Lust, and Relationships for Neurodivergent Women
Neurodivergent women are done apologising for being “too much” or “not enough.” In The ND Lovers Club: How Neurodivergent Women Lust, Like, and Love, authors Bontle Senne and Sara-Louise Ackrill break down the barriers of shame and stereotypes to show that ND women don’t just deserve love—they excel at it.
This unapologetically feminist manifesto-meets-self-help book dives into the messy, magical world of dating, sex, and relationships as experienced by ND women. With wit, wisdom, and plenty of f-bombs, Senne and Ackrill explore how ADHD, autism, and other neurodivergent identities shape how women approach intimacy. Spoiler alert: it’s not the same as what Big Bang Theory or Elon Musk might have you believe.
Why This Book Is the One ND Women Need Right Now
Forget tired self-help tropes. This book is about keeping it real:
· Love and Lust Without Apology: ND women aren’t broken, weird, or hard to love. They’re different—and that difference is what makes them amazing partners.
· Sex Isn’t a Performance: Whether you’re exploring kinks, dealing with mismatched libidos, or navigating asexuality, this book dives into why sex can be both tricky and transformative for ND women.
· No More Masking: From masking in relationships to rejecting societal norms, The ND Lovers Club shows how to embrace your authentic self in love and life.
· Unlearning Media Myths: No, being autistic doesn’t mean you can be a jerk. No, having ADHD doesn’t mean you can ghost people. Senne and Ackrill dismantle stereotypes and set the record straight.
Key Takeaways for Readers:
· You don’t have to sacrifice who you are to find love, have sex, or be in a relationship.
· Emotional regulation, communication, and consent are learnable skills—whether you’re neurodivergent or neurotypical.
· ND women are not the “problem” in relationships, and it’s time society stopped blaming them for not fitting into NT molds.
Who Should Read This Book?
If you’ve ever felt like you’re too much, too emotional, too distracted, or too complicated to date, this book is for you. If you’re an NT partner who loves an ND woman (or wants to), this book is also for you. It’s a game-changing read for anyone ready to challenge traditional ideas of relationships and intimacy.
Praise for The ND Lovers Club
“This book is a breath of fresh air for ND women who are sick of being told they’re unlovable. It’s bold, empowering, and packed with real talk about love and relationships.” — Chris Riches, Daily Express
“A much-needed antidote to stereotypes about ND people and intimacy. Finally, a book that centres ND women and celebrates their unique perspectives on love and lust.” — Richard Moriarty, The Sun
Meet the Authors
Bontle Senne is a powerhouse transformation expert, author, and speaker with a track record of shaking things up across industries. She brings her no-nonsense approach and personal ND journey to this book, creating a voice that is both relatable and razor-sharp.
Sara-Louise Ackrill is a therapist and entrepreneur known for her wit, warmth, and passion for helping ND people thrive. As a self-proclaimed neurodiversity evangelist, she combines personal insights with professional expertise to deliver a book that’s equal parts inspiring and practical.
Why This Book Belongs on Every ND Woman’s Nightstand:
The ND Lovers Club is more than a book—it’s a movement. From busting myths to sharing actionable advice, this book invites readers to embrace their neurodivergence and redefine what intimacy looks like on their own terms.
Availability
The ND Lovers Club: How Neurodivergent Women Lust, Like, and Love will be available in paperback and eBook formats from Feb 17th